The Second Worst Word in the English Language, and Why You Must Eliminate it
Q. Whats the worst word?
A. “Can’t”.
Most people can understand that but you might be shocked by what the second worst word in the English language is…its “TRY”
I absolutely hate that word
There is nothing wrong with giving your best effort in pursuit of something. The mindset behind the word “try” is what I can’t stand and what I believe limits your abilities and talents. Master Yoda gave all of us the best advice we ever disregarded when he told young Luke, “Do or Do not. There is no try”. I mean we can’t look to a short, green, Jedi master puppet for sound life advice can we? Yes we absolutely can, because he was telling the plain and simple truth!
No matter what thing or task you are doing in life, there will only be two outcomes. Either you did it, successfully, or you did not do it. Simple. Master Yoda’s point was when you are looking at something you want to accomplish, you must look at it with the mentality that I am going to DO this. I am not going to try to do something because trying implies my lack of belief in what I am doing or able to do. We have all been guilty of it in seemingly small little ways:
“I’m TRYING to get in shape this year” or “I’m going to TRY to be a better person” or “I’m TRYING to clean up my life”.
It’s all bogus. If you want to get in shape, go to the gym and decide that “I am getting in shape”. Whatever you want to do for yourself, your family or your friends should be framed in the mentality that I can and will DO this. Notice how weak the word ‘try’ can sound. When you hear people use ‘try’ in relation to something you are unsure they are able to do, does the word ‘try’ increase or decrease your confidence in them?
There is nothing wrong with failing. ‘You can’t win them all’ is also true. My hope for each of you who read this is that you take a look at whatever you want to do and just stop giving yourself the excuse of trying. Just Do it.
Homework for this week
Here is a brief but helpful assignment. Tell the people you speak with most frequently that you are going to stop using the word ‘try’ and ask them to call you on it each time.
Immediately you will notice a couple of things:
1. Most of us use the word ‘try’ a lot
2. After a couple of days, you will say the word ‘try’ much less.
There are no limits on what you will be able to do once you stop trying and just do it! So quit trying now and start doing!
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About Ahmad: Ahmad is a native Californian born in Riverside. After an awesome college experience at UC San Diego, he moved his base of operations to San Francisco and joined the seductive world of finance. Instead of the typical wall st prescription of “multi-millionaire by age 35”, his personal journey of discovery led him to relocate to Studio City and into the even more seductive world of film and television. Guiding him along his journey is a belief that people are far stronger than we all think and that we can really accomplish anything we set our mind and work to. |
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Ahmad,
Absolutely awesome post. Looking forward to seeing more from you. “Try” is a really interesting word because it implies by the possibility of failure. Even the root of all self help books “Think and Grow Rich” talks about the impact that word try has on the subconscious. I think we just need to do rather than try.